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Erin Lowry

Millennial Couples Need to Get Used to Prenups

It makes sense to plan for your financial well-being inside and outside of marriage.

What’s the plan?

What’s the plan?

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I love the concept of prenups. I’d go so far as to call them romantic. What shows more intimacy than laying bare all your financial details? What is more loving than creating a plan for divvying up assets in a fair and equitable way? Why wouldn’t you do this while nestled in the bubble of your engagement — and before you get to the inevitable trials and tribulations of marriage? 

And yet, most people have visceral reactions when I bring up the topic. Prenups aren’t always well-meaning, of course, but it’s almost as if uttering the word places a hex on one’s marriage. Data on this is scarce (the most recent I could find was a 2016 survey suggesting prenups were slightly on the rise), but my experience says we’re still far from normalizing discussions about the financial terms and conditions of marriage.