Why have two? Because it's fun!
In response to Lauren's query about the views of working parents on having a second child, I'll weigh in with a resounding "Yes!"
I know this is easy to say for a working dad with a non-working spouse at home, but there's one really good reason for having two kids: It's a blast. Sure, a second kid means more squabbling, more food, more laundry, more trips to ballet lessons--more everything. But a second child is also a built-in companion for your first one. That obviously has lots of benefits, but to put the matter somewhat crassly, for a working parent it can mean you don't have to spend as much time on child care.
Don't get me wrong. I love hanging out with my daughters, both individually and together. But there are times when I have to do things that are easier accomplished without kids. At those times, Esmé and Adriana are usually just as happy to play with each other as they are to be with me or my wife, Jacqueline. They virtually never ask to watch the TV (I don't think they actually know how to turn it on) because they find ways to amuse themselves with dolls, balls, stuffed animals, dress-up games, or art projects. And while they sometimes retreat to their own corners, as often as not they play together.
Of course, a wee bit of supervision is needed. One time when Esmé was four and Adri was two, Jacqueline went away for the weekend. I was trying to prepare a nice homecoming meal for her, so I left the girls in their room, where they seemed to be playing nicely. After a half-hour or so, though, I noticed that things were suspiciously quiet in that part of the house. I went up to investigate--and found that they had emptied several bottles of baby powder and were flinging the stuff in the air, making their room look like one of those winter scenes from Doctor Zhivago.
I somehow managed to forgive them that indiscretion, as well as the occasional (ok, frequent) turf battles in the back seat and other squabbles that they get into. They’re great friends both to each other and to their parents. And they’re great at keeping each other entertained.
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