City Or Country? Discuss.

Cathy Arnst

I've been holding a raging debate with myself of late about which is a better place to raise kids, or at least my kid: the heart of the city or the leafy suburbs. Right now I live in an apartment in a small building in Brooklyn. It's a lovely brownstone community with friendly families and an excellent public elementary school with a very diverse student body, right around the corner. We take regular advantage of all the city has to offer. My daughter's been to Broadway shows, ballet, art museums, concerts of all kinds, even Coney Island (a different sort of culture). In the last few months we've been to a West Indies festival, Chinese festival and an African festival--sometimes I feel you can experience the world without ever leaving New York. It takes me a half hour to get to work by subway and if I'm feeling posh, I can take a cab. When I'm home, everything we want--friends, restaurants, stores, movie theaters--is in walking distance.

What's the downside, you ask? Well, we live in an apartment--a two bedroom, one bath apartment. Lovely place, but not a lot of room. There's no outside space, other than the parks and playgrounds in the neighborhood and the front stoop. That got to be a real problem during the heat wave this summer, when my daughter seemed trapped in the apartment. I am always hustling to get her enrolled in day camps, swim lessons, dance classes or whatever before they are filled with all the other thousands of childrens who want the same. She is in a great elementary school, yes, but middle school and high school will be another story. In New York, you must apply to the top public schools at those levels, and the application process is as competitive as college. Private school is out of the financial question.

So this summer, I started dreaming about a yard, and space, and a good school district. I thought about my daughter being able to run outside and play whenever she wanted, to ride her bike whenever she wanted, to run in the woods, to laze about on the grass. It would probably be a lot less expensive to live outside the city--if for no other reason than that we'd stop going out to dinner so often. I even looked at houses in New Jersey, all within walking distance to a town and a train station.

Of course, I'd be facing a much longer commute, and my daughter could end up being one of the few children of color in her suburban school (she is Chinese). Cultural outings would dwindle to...nothing, most likely. And let's face it, I'd miss all those restaurants within walking distance. The ultimate indignity: When she gets to be a teenager she could be bored, bored, bored. Meanwhile, I would, I assume, live the life of a socially isolated single parent.

Oh dear. What do people out there think? City? Suburbs? Give it all up and move to Montana? I'd love to hear other perspectives, especially from those who have tried both.

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