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February 06, 2006
Working Father Magazine?
When I came home late Saturday night from 4-day business trip to Puerto Rico with the Belizean Grove, I had some concerns about what I would find. Usually when I leave my husband Neil alone with our two boys, the house looks like a hurricane hit it when I return. But after enough ranting and raving about that, this time I was pleasantly surprised: the toys were in their bins, the dishes were clean and in the cupboard, and the laundry was in the basket (not the floor).
The surprise comes because he doesn?? have many role models for juggling kids and career. I did a quick search for on the web and most of what came up was website and blog support specifically for professional women, like BlueSuitMom.com and MotherAtWork, for stay at home dads, like RebelDad and for working parents but zippo for working dads.
Granted, I know women (including myself) do most of the day-to-day stuff for the kids, but I don?? think it is solely the fault of the fathers. Lois Scott, ceo of a Chicago-based investment banking firm, Scott Balice Strategies, commented on our blog that ??nterestingly, it is not just the moms that want this level of flexibility and choice about their working lives, it's the dads too.??nother blog I ran across DowntownWomen's Club, also wrote that work life balance is not just a woman's issue.
It reminds me of chat I had with Gloria Steinem a few years ago when I asked her how she felt about the state of women in the workplace. I was surprised at the time by her answer. She said that until professional men feel comfortable to express their need for a work/life balance, as women have begun to do, then they are unable to contribute more at home even if they might want to. Time for a working dad's magazine?
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I thought the readers might like to know about a few good resources for working dads out there including:
- Interactive Dad Magazine (great online magazine)
- The GoodFather Gift CD-ROM (teaches new and expecting dads baby skills to mobster parody)
- New Dad Forum (free forum for new dads and grandfathers)
Hope it helps,
Posted by: hisnew at February 9, 2006 10:50 AM
I actually was shocked when I found out that I was gonna be a father in December 2004 and I immediately went looking for books and/or magazines for dads. There are scads of resources out there for moms, but not much out there for the guys who are comitted to make sure they do the dad thing right. The vast majority of the books that ARE out there are written with a tongue-in-cheek tone that assumes most men have barely progressed past adolesence in maturity or common sense, with themes like "How to change the baby without dropping your beer."
The only place I've found honest, real, and relevant advice on fatherhood has been from the many online blogs out there like RebelDad, DaddyTypes, Dadtalk, LaidOffDad, and others. Hopefully some media mogul will realize that there is a vast untapped market of men who really are interested in being good fathers.
Posted by: Mark at February 9, 2006 04:24 PM
Toddi- I've noticed that some milennium dads use an online community to air their "balancing " problems and to get feedback. After reading your blog posting I referred back to an online community of which I'm a member and noticed 2 postings of work at home dads, about balancing the work life equation! MRG
Posted by: MRG at February 14, 2006 09:37 AM
What comes first, the realization on the part of men that they need balance too, or the media support? I think when it comes to balance for men, they think of balance of responsibilities between husband and wife (if the wife is lucky). So while Neil might be a mensch, I think he's one of few. Unfortunately a Working Dad's magazine would fail. How about a Working Family magazine??
Posted by: JKD at February 14, 2006 01:45 PM
How about a men's magazine for fathers? Oddly enough, my friends and I are launching one this week called THE FATHER LIFE. Website is http://www.thefatherlife.com.
I stumbled across this post/thread while doing some last minute research.
Enjoy! -Ben Murphy, Founder/Publisher, email@example.com
Posted by: BM at December 19, 2006 12:16 AM
It is interesting how few resources there are out there for fathers who are trying to balance their desire to succeed at work and their desire to be the best possible dad they can be.
You might want to check out www.ceodad.com. There is a radio talk show tied to the site that might be interesting to working dads.
Posted by: cmc98 at December 21, 2006 04:17 PM